Image via confessionsofalovingwife.com

Sexting: 21^st C hybrid word of ‘Sex’ & ‘Texting’. Sexting is the act of sending a nude/pornographic style image of oneself via a mobile device.

There has been an outpouring of events in the media in recent times of nude pictures garnered via sexting, ending up in hands other than the intended party. Usually, and worst case scenario, the unintended party is the mass media and/or some social medium for the entire world to be privy to what was intended to be private. Many careers and family lives have been ruined as a result of this 21^st C craze, and still, there will probably be more to showcase & tarnish in the future.

As a result of such scandals, many have been quick to offer that the best solution for avoidance is to say no to sexting. If such a picture or video of you does not exist in the first place, then there is absolutely nothing to be exposed. Right? I agree to some extent.

Image via murraythenut.com

I have been sexting for as long as this craze was doable, hence since I’ve had a mobile phone than can send pictures. Yes, I; guilty as confessed! *looks around*My most significant relationship turned into a long distance one when I moved away for school. I was not about to be outdone or be out of sight. Nope. Sexting was only the beginning…but also the end for you because that’s the topic. LOL!

It’s easy for one to hastily banish sexting if they’ve never personally been a situation where it may have been warranted. Yes, I said warranted. For example: Are you in a long distance relationship? Does your mate work long, sometimes overnight shifts? Is your mate imprisoned? Do you work long, sometimes overnight shifts? Do you and your mate see each other on a tight schedule? If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to any of the questions above, sexting may be just what it takes to savour the spice in your relationship. Oh, you thought those long or phone sex calls alone are doing it? *side eye*

It is 2011. I try to tell people each day that becoming a smarter you is as easy as clicking Search on Google and navigating some pages. What people still fail to recognize is that there is a smart way to do just about everything in this life. Where sexting is concerned, I’ll give you some pointers from A-Z. Of course there will not be 26 points, and this list is by no means the ‘be all end all’. But at least you may catch on to being a smarter you.

Prelude: your mate (usually the male) requests a naughty pic of his baby (yes, YOU). Or maybe he didn’t, but you’re about to have some phone sex so why not add some visual? Yes! And then there is always that ‘just because’ picture. Speaks volumes of…never mind! *bats lashes*. Tay Appention:

1. A. Is your man the talkative type? Like, in a general social setting with friends, is he the center of keeping the conversations going? Is your man generally vindictive, whether toward you or others? Is your man careless with his phone, whether he loses it often or leaves it lying around? Is your man technology deficient, like his Bluetooth is always on or he regularly tweets what should be DMs? If you’ve answered ‘Yes’ to any of the above, be keen to Parts B & D or DO NOT SEXT! Not all scandals start with the actual recipient. Someone in the know could just be that slick, and hates you that much!
2. B. Find the best lighting, angle, and pose to capture the hell out of whatever particular he requested to see. Yes honey. Your ‘fat ass’, ‘stiff breasts’, ‘fluffy kitty’, ‘freshly-shaved’, ‘juicy kitty’, or his favourite sex position shall be captured. WHATEVER he wants to see within Part D constraint, WIN! Girl, strut your best stuff for that man you love or are trying to trap. LOL!
3. C. I said LOL, but mind you if the intended party is a man not exclusively yours, ensure he has something to lose should he decide to leak that picture to the world. Decipher that last sentence on your own. Still stay within Part D boundary. WIN!
4. D. Your pic SHOULD NOT INCLUDE anything that would identify said body part in a line-up of 5 randomly chosen females of like skin color. Pretty much that’s means NO birth mark or personalised tattoos. Piercings are whatever…they all look the same, as do all fat asses, most kitties, & succulent breasts! Yes, that’s what I said. #letitmarinate
5. E. OF COURSE your face is not in these pictures right? But I didn’t have to type that. *side eye*
6. F. OF COURSE you’re NOT emailing them from your main account with your full Government name, right? *side eye*
7. G. OF COURSE if you’re sending via BBM or other instant messenger you are super careful when selecting the contact right? *side eye*

I hope you’re somewhat smarter on keeping up with the romance. Sexting is exciting & mentally stimulating! Have fun exploring the beauty of your body and sharing it with those you deem fit. One thing I will say in closing:

SAY NO TO SEX TAPES! DO NOT TAKE PART IN ANY WAY WHATSOEVER. SEX TAPES WILL VIOLATE PARTS D-G REGARDLESS OF WHAT YOU MAY THINK!

Be Blessed

About the Author

Damali Henry is a driven, God-fearing lover of life, & a life-long student of the world of Arts & Entertainment. She recently authored her first novel “TAUNTED By Choice…” , available here. This “young, gifted, and black” unstoppable woman, introduces a different taste of island life with a pervasive message throughout: “Mankind lives by choice; coincidence is rare!”. You may see more about her via facebook.com/damalihenry or follow her on Twitter @damaliahenry